Downside of Wealth

Did you know that there was a downside to being wealthy?

There will be something in your past, to do with what you saw and noticed and experienced with your family, and how they behaved around money, bills and finances, that will impact your ability to earn, save and strive, particularly for a specific money goal.

Not just in general having more money, but having a specific amount. So say, for example, in the business world, you see a lot of it at the moment, talking about getting to a six figure salary, right? The reason that a lot of business owners can't do that, or struggle to do that, is because there will have been a downside or perceived downside to being wealthy in their family, potentially, when they were younger.

I take people through this, to uncover it and figure out what's causing those impulses that are operating in their money reality, which causes them to either limit and play small, rebel, and try and prove themselves and their worth - which means you get wealth, then you sabotage it, aka boom and bust.

A lot of times people just think that the feast and famine cycle is just to do with your ability to create wealth. Actually, when you dig underneath it, it's all about whether you felt compassion for your family in the way that they dealt with stuff. Whether you felt rebellion and anger towards them because they should have been better with money. It has a Push Me Pull You effect.

If you have a lot of loyalty to your family and the way they operate, you won't go above a certain income limit. Unconsciously, you'll stop yourself, you'll play below the radar.

If you've got rebellion going on in your family paradigm around this, you will be the one who breaks away, who says "I'm going to do better than this, I'm going to do more, I'm going to be the first person in our family to do this, go to uni, hit six figures...", whatever it is. And that push push push vibe is what causes the boom and the bust because this because the rebellion itself is what causes the sabotage. I know it's mind bending, right?

It's a really interesting part of your money reality. The thing is, this downside of wealth will have been shown to you unconsciously because parents and caregivers get it from their families and it gets handed down. What you saw and experienced and felt and heard and noticed when you were say six or seven years old means that you will have taken a vow at that point to remain loyal to the family paradigm. The feeling of "it's not right to go above this certain point and earn more than my family just I'll just stay here will be mediocre", or "I don't want this I want better than this, they should have been better than this. Screw this, I'm gonna go and do something different" and try and make it work.

Either way, unless you dissolve the roots of that vow and dissolve the family paradigm that is literally keeping a ceiling on your earning potential, you won't move forward and get where you want to be. This isn't about cutting ties with family. This is not about making your parents or your caregivers wrong. This is about dissolving a family paradigm that was never yours in the first place and moving through to a place of having compassion for your family for the way that they were taught to operate in money and how that limited them.

Then it becomes about making that new decision to move through to creating your money reality how you want it, not by being loyal to the family paradigm, OR rebelling against it. Just from your own decisions, because then there's no loyalty ties, there's no rebellion ties. You can step into this place of feeling like "right, let's do this properly. Let me think about what I want. Let's work on why that feels uncomfortable. Let's clear all the energy out from underneath it. And then let's set myself a nice money goal that feels good to me. That is going to nourish my goals and dreams".

It's not about thinking "I have to hit six figures otherwise I'm rubbish". It's about having a financial goal that gives you what money gives you. Which is usually to give you time freedom, emotional freedom, more time with your family, all of those good things. The thing is, we cannot ignore money and the fact that it's an important part of running a business especially if you're in the intuitive, healing space. In a networking session a few months ago, I was talking to someone about this very thing and what she said broke my heart.

Her best friend at the time took her own life because she had run up so much debt from helping and serving people, and giving away Reiki for free and various other things, that she couldn't get out of the debt that she got in simply through being so dedicated to serving other people. She couldn't get out of it, so she took her own life.

Now, that still gets me in the feels every time I think about it, and I'm not trying to bum you out with this. What I'm trying to do is make you see that just because you're a healer, just because you're a coach, or a therapeutic wellness provider of some kind, please don't think that you don't deserve to be compensated well for your time, your ability, your skills, your gifts.

It's your lifeforce that you're exchanging in order to help other people and you don't get that back. Time is a man made construct but your lifeforce is finite, and we don't get it back. So you absolutely deserve to get rid of this downside of wealth, and to aim higher, not because there's an obsession with six figures, not because so and so is doing this and I want to be seen as being good enough.

How would it feel if you could set yourself a financial goal that would completely nourish your dreams, clear away all of this programming all of these ties that bind you to the level that you can't get past and finally achieve it? I want you to know that it's achievable. Believe me, I'm the poster girl for it. I carried around 50K of debt for most of my adult life, made a decision did the energy work cleared it off and within a couple of weeks, a cash buyer turned up for my house, cleared all my debt off.

Now I know that's unusual, clearing it all off like that. I know, sometimes you have to work to pay off debt and that's all fine. But my point is that the catalyst for that was me doing the energy work because I knew that there was a pattern, I knew I was holding myself back and then making a decision for things to be different.

Now you get to make a decision about how to move forward, and if you would like my help, please email me at hello@innersmileeft.com

Categories: : Business Growth, Coaching, Emotional Health, Energy Work