Is Your Nervous System Stunting Your Growth?

This week I want to talk to you about the fact that your nervous system, as much as it's a wonderful thing, could be stunting your growth.

Is Your Nervous System Stunting Your Growth

This week I want to talk to you about the fact that your nervous system, as much as it's a wonderful thing, could be stunting your growth.

What do I mean by that? So the nervous system runs the show, it's all caught up with fight flight, and any triggers that are coming towards you, anything that reminds you of something that makes you feel unsafe.

It dictates whether our body goes into fight/ flight/ freeze, or whether we remain in flow, and ready to move forward.

It responds to all sorts of things that might be coming towards you, either literally or in your mind, and it reminds you in any way of something that has been before, then there's little flash of memory in the hippocampus and your amygdala says "Oh, you remember that thing that happened then, well this kind of feels like that, and I don't think it's safe. So we're not gonna go there."

Often we go into fight or flight and we constantly have this feeling of fear circulating, even if we're not massively conscious of it, because there are so many triggers these days.

We can end up operating from a level of what I call low grade, consistent stress, and stress response, a lot of the time. When you consider that, and the fact that we have little receptor sites in our bodies that actually get addicted to the emotional charge of negative thoughts, our brains keep producing those negative thoughts to feed the addiction of the receptor sites

If you compound all of that together, it can often mean that we stay stuck in this place of "I can't do that, because...." and "I can't go back that way because...." and we don't really move forward.

Or if we do, it's a little bit and then maybe we come back again to the same place.

If this is sounding like you, stick with me, because I'm going to give you a real life example of how this can really show up in your life, just so that you can get a feel for it.

The thing is, when we have all this going on in our body, when we're stuck in this perpetual state of consistent low grade stress, not moving forward for fear of it going wrong, or even been really successful, and not being able to go back to where we were, and also feeling annoyed with how we are with where we are in the moment and wanting to move but not being able to.... and all of these negative thoughts that our brain is producing to feed the addiction of the receptor sites, right?

What happens is our list of safe actions, the things that we will allow ourselves to do, the things that we feel safe doing, it compacts over time, it gets smaller and smaller and smaller, the older and wiser, we get.

The thing about that is you then limit yourself, so your nervous system can be limiting you, it can be stunting, your growth. None of this is conscious though, so I want you to just pause before you get on the self flagellation train, take a breath,and know this is not your fault.

This is just the way the body is wired and back in the day, when there wasn't so much consistent, low grade stress triggers coming at us, notification after notification after notification, and the news and the phone and the computer and everything else.

It's a huge toxic dump into our system and we have to deal with that. And our brain is doing the best that it can. And our nervous system is responding to that, so this is not your fault.

Let me give you a real life example in weight loss. It's a really common area that people encounter all over the world. It's an area where doubt really comes into play. Doubts around whether we can do it, based on what's happened before our previous attempts, or what other people are doing, or because it feels really hard.

We ask ourselves whether we're willing to do everything it takes whether we're worthy of even losing weight and feeling good and whether it's safe for us to lose weight and feel good and sexy and healthy.

If you're thinking about it in terms of self talk, you might think about trying to lose weight and you might say "that just feels so hard" or "I'm not sure I'm willing to do everything it takes, I'd have to restrict everything I eat, I'd have to exercise and I still want to do that it's too difficult exercise makes my body hurt."

Then you tell yourself that you're not worthy of losing weight and feeling good and makign the change and it might sound something like this "Well, this is just how it is for people like us, my whole family are big". Does that resonate?

This is one that I have encountered for years personally and with my clients - "My whole family is just built this way. How can I possibly be any different. This is how we are and maybe people would see me as arrogant if I was slim and, and sexy and pulled together and successful"

Then there's safety. When you doubt whether it's safe to do something, it might show up something like this, "Well, if I lose weight, I'll get pregnant, I'll get unwanted attention, or too much attention. And I wouldn't want it" That's huge, and so we keep the weight on as kind of a padding, like a safety suit.

Now, if you take that template, and you think about the things I've said to you in terms of self talk, think about how that might show up for you in terms of going for the job of your dreams, starting the business of your dreams.

Can I do it?

Am I willing to do everything it takes?

Am I worthy of having what that's going to bring me?

And is it safe for me and other people for me to have what I want?

If there's any sniff of the answer being no to any of that, then we don't run towards pain. In the last couple of videos, we've been talking about this, we don't openly run towards pain, or at least most of us don't.

We move away from pain and towards pleasure, but there is a tipping point. When we've done enough work in terms of nervous system regulation, Tapping, coaching, self development, self discovery and so on, we begin to be magnetized more by pleasure than we wish to move away from pain.

So the tipping point is there, but until you do the nervous system work around soothing the responses that you have to the limiting beliefs you have and in the stories you tell yourself, you won't reach it.

If you look at those four things, and soothe yourself while you do it, you will make massive inroads and that tipping point will come sooner.

So don't let your nervous system stunt your growth. It's there. It serves a purpose. It is a beautiful, wonderful thing. Right? We need it and it's wired that way for a purpose.

Just bear in mind that, these days, we have so many consistent low grade stress triggers coming at us, compounded by all the stuff we've been through, and all the ways our brain tells us that that is not safe, that we need to make sure we are regulating on a daily basis.

As a minimum, I would say when you get up in the morning, tap for five to 10 minutes. Whether you use words or not doesn't matter, because the tapping does the heavy lifting

Tap in a morning for anything that you're worried about that might happen that day, or anything you fear may happen or may not happen. Any way in which you feel underprepared, or not ready, or incapable.

Then halfway through the day, take yourself off to the toilet for five minutes and tap and just regulate how you're feeling, on how the day is going. Is it living up to expectations or not? Do you feel like you're doing a good job? Are you being present?

If you're not being In present, and you're flitting about all over the shop with tons of cycling thoughts, just tapping for five minutes, either here or on the side of the hand will help. If you're a Tapping pro you can go all the way around the points and just vent about how you feel.

If you're having a great day, I say tap too, because you'll tap in the good feelings, and the more you tap in the good feelings, the quicker that tipping point comes to you, where you're magnetized by positive things rather than repelled by the negative.

Not to mention those little receptor sites that are addicted to the emotional charge of those negative thoughts that were in abundance in your body. They start to get addicted to the positive thoughts.

Then, at the end of the day, before you go to bed, tap on any way in which you felt disempowered, pissed off, not up to par, regretful -whatever anything that came up for you in the day that was not where you would have liked it to be. Tap to clear it, because there's copious benefits to that.

You will sleep better, your rest and digest will be deeper. Tapping even helps to flush out the plaque from around the brain cells when you're sleeping, which helps with early onset Dementia and Alzheimer's. So, you are not just taking care of stress in the moment, you are priming your body and your nervous system, for a healthy, long, fit life.

I guess my message really is about not letting all the consistent low grade stress stunt your growth. Work with your body and the systems that are naturally wired to match EFT perfectly so that you can create the life that you want and deserve. The life you are willing to create, are worthy of and that is completely safe for you to have.

Speaking of teh concept of Able, Willing, Worthy and Safe, don't forget that on 16th of February I am running The Expansion Map LIVE experiential workshop again, because a lot of people missed it. (and the replay didn't work there was a tech snafu.) So I'm going to do it again live and you get a workbook to go along with it.

I am going to take you through and help you tap to soothe all of those four areas - able, willing, worthy, safe. Once you have that template, you have a practice that you can then apply to anything that you don't feel like you can achieve, for whatever reason.

Most of the time is one of those four concepts. I would love it if you would join me!

All the registration links are probably below this video wherever you're consuming it. Grab your place because I would love to see you and if you sign up and register and you can't make it live, I've made sure that the you will get the replay this time!

I hope this helped you today, let me know how by sending me a DM or replying to the email with your Aha moments!