Keeping Up With The Jones’s?

This week, I want to talk to you about your earliest money paradigm. Now, what on earth does that mean? It means that we're all carrying programming from when we were little, between the ages of zero and seven years old.

There were things that you'll have seen, heard, felt, sensed or experienced, around how your primary caregivers dealt with, handled, talked about and behaved around money, bills, and finances. It's really important that we bring some light to this, because how that all played out, impacts how you are today with money.

So we touched in the last video on how there are thoughts, feelings, emotions and connected trauma that related to that period of your life that you've kind of carried forward unconsciously - and you manifest your money to match the feelings and the emotions that are hardwired in your nervous system from that time.

For example, when you were really young, do you remember your parents saying something like this;

"well, it's alright for them"

"we're not like that in this family"

"you always have to work hard for your money"

"why don't you get a proper job".....

you will have heard and picked upon this when you were younger, unconsciously carried it through your life, and it impacts how you behave, feel & think about and deal with money, bills and finances.

Sometimes you may have had a parental or a family situation where money was spent to try and keep up with wealthy neighbors, or even noticed a divide. Your parents might have said something like "Oh, how the other half live" Is this resonating?

Most people I know have memories like that. Now, even if your parents or caregivers didn't talk about money, and you didn't hear that kind of thing, you might have picked up on a sense that you shouldn't talk about money because it's taboo, right? It was not to be talked about at all. That void of talking about money can create a feeling that somehow money isn't safe, shouldn't be talked about, shouldn't be looked at, shouldn't be discussed.

And guess what that manifests in later in life - not looking at your finances! Not talking about it, not dealing with it. You won't have consciously sat down and decided you were not going to deal with your money necessarily, but we carry it forward, because it's what gets wired into our nervous system....

And we manifest our money today to match how we felt back then, because our amygdala, our brain threat detection system, feel safe, because it's familiar.

I know, I'm hammering this point home and will be doing so even more during the month of March. because I'm so passionate about this. It really changed my life four years ago when I trained as a Tapping Into Wealth Coach with Margaret Lynch. When I discovered all of these set points and all of these limits that we keep bumping up against, to do with money and generally how abundant we allow ourselves to feel, I realised it's all about our capacity to receive, based on our self worth and perceived value in the world.

I'm going to be getting into more aspects of this as we go through March. But I really want to let you know that this is not your fault. This is just the way your system is wired. Our nervous system is wired to protect us, our brain is wired to protect us. And it keeps us in these patterns that are familiar, because anything that's unfamiliar, a different identity, a different way of operating around money, is unfamiliar in there feels therefore feels risky, and potentially unsafe.

This can have you doing things like limiting yourself in your income, unconsciously not showing up, not going for the real job that you want. Not asking for a raise, not starting your own business because maybe you've been told you need to have a real job. You can't make money for Your gifts and skills.

It may even have gone to the extreme of having a parental or family situation that frowns upon things like Reiki or healing because they're telling you it's a scam. It's important to realise they don't mean to stick a spanner in the works, it's not a conscious thing. Yet, it's family paradigms being carried forward.

The great news is, it can stop with you, so if you have your own children, you can stop this paradigm in its tracks in your family. You can break that cycle for others in your biological family too - children, grandchildren, cousins, nieces and nephews. You can influence your partner as well, and maybe their children and their children's children.

You can even influence your own parents, grandparents, or any other relative, so please don't underestimate this work. It's incredibly, incredibly powerful.

To that end, I'd love to invite you to join me in April for a four week, deep dive into everything we've talked about so far. It's all about having healthy money, uncovering all your money set points, all of your limitations, all of your patterns and paradigms and programming that have been had handed down to you unconsciously.

You can join me for just £97. Throughout whole of April we will meet for live master classes in zoom. It will be very in depth, very experiential and you'll get all the tapping scripts and everything you need to carry on doing this again and again. We will leave NO stone unturned. Check out the link at the end of this training to sign up.

I hope that you get something from this video anyway, whether or not you're joining the masterclass, but I would love to invite you to consider joining us.

Take care until next time.

Categories: : Business Growth, Coaching, Emotional Health, Energy Work